227 Adoptee Remembrance Day

Adoptee Remembrance Day is commemorated annually on October 30th. It is a day to remember our adoptee friends who have died by suicide. On this day we also acknowledge the adopted people who are without citizenship in the very country they were taken to as infants or children. We think of those who have suffered abuse at the hands of their adoptive parents and grieve those who have been murdered by the people who promised to give them a safe home. We mourn with those of us who have buried pain through addictions and lost time through incarceration. On Adoptee Remembrance Day we validate the experiences of those who have had adoption disruptions and multiple placements. Today we recognize the disconnection and loss of all who identify as being separated from our families of origin, by no choice of our own.

This is the third annual Adoptee Remembrance Day and in previous years we have asked listeners to submit recordings of what the day meant to them. This year we recorded a live event with the Adoptee Voices writing groups and ten adoptee writers who are sharing a collection of their poetry and prose with us today. It was powerful and moving and deeply beautiful and filled with sorrow.

*Content warning: this episode contains mentions of suicide, self-harm, and other challenging topics

Show Notes


Today’s Writers

  • Maya Holmes - A Day for the Forgotten and Broken-Hearted - Instagram
  • Christine Koubek Flynn - On Remembering Adoption -Twitter | Website
  • Marci Purcell - We Remember in our Bones -Twitter
  • Rebecca Cheek - Individually, Collectively
  • Roberta Holland - Happy Birthday
  • Adam Anthony - How do I really feel about all this? - Instagram - Website
  • Tina - Breathing Blue - Podcast Episode
  • Cynthia Landesberg - The Day They Say I Was Born -Website
  • Sandi Smith - Earthquake
  • Chae Ryan - [Untitled] - chae.ryan[at]icloud[dot]com

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